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In this Scenario we are going to experiment with Domination andSubmission by restraining and restricting your partner

Kinky Time S&M BDSM icon in the Kamorii online sex guide

In this Scenario we are going to experiment with Domination andSubmission by restraining and restricting your partner

Tools Needed

Restraint

You could use a scarf, stockings or something similar like a dressing gown cord. Clingfilm is also quite erotic and you will most likely have some in the kitchen and if you do have to go and buy some, it is cheap and it will not be embarrassing to buy i.e. you will not have to walk into a sex shop to get it.

Blindfold

A scarf, tie, eye mask or stockings will do just fine.

Gag

Again improvise, some underwear or stockings will do the job admirably.

Pair of Scissors

Just in case!

Restraint

You could use a scarf, stockings or something similar like a dressing gown cord. Clingfilm is also quite erotic and you will most likely have some in the kitchen and if you do have to go and buy some, it is cheap and it will not be embarrassing to buy i.e. you will not have to walk into a sex shop to get it.

Blindfold

A scarf, tie, eye mask or stockings will do just fine.

Gag

Again improvise, some underwear or stockings will do the job admirably.

Pair of Scissors

Just in case!

Preparation & Pre-Role Play Considerations

So before we start this exercise, let us establish what we are looking to achieve. The act of restraining and restricting is usually described as bondage and can take many different forms. It can vary from the beautiful & intricate artistry of Japanese rope bondage (Kinbaku/Shibari), through to various encasements in leather, rubber, cling film, etc. Just know that for some people, bondage, restriction, encasement and all things associated really are their main thing, their favourite fetish and it really is a fascinating area of BDSM.
In this session, you will be using light bondage as a tool to explore and heighten your feelings of submission and dominance. Do not worry, no-one is getting wrapped head to toe in cling film and no-one is going to be restrained to the point where they feel that they could not escape. Remember, we are only using light bondage as a prop here, the idea of this session is to get you to experiment with the concepts of Dominance and Submission and to build up trust and openness. The first three scenarios in this session are building foundations in the fundamentals before moving on to specifics.

Let's talk about SAFETY

Communication

It is of the utmost importance that you communicate with your partner when engaging in these activities. Communication is not always verbal, there is a lot to be observed in a person’s body language and movements. If a person is blindfolded and gagged, they lose their ability to communicate with their eyes and mouth, so if you are playing the dominant role the responsibility is on you to listen and react accordingly to keep your partner safe. You should also observe any positive reactions and make a mental note of the things that really push the buttons of your submitting partner. As the submissive, do not assume that your role is simply a passive one, while you may enjoy being dominated, bear in mind also that your dominant partner should be enjoying the act of dominating you too, try to feel and observe any actions that you take that enhance your partner’s experience.

Keep bonds & ties comfortable

A good idea is to sit down before you get to the bedroom and just practice tying each others’ wrists, yes even for the person that is playing the dominant role, as it is important that you are aware of how your partner will feel when restrained. Experiment with tying hands both in front and behind your back, check that there is no major discomfort and find a position and level of tightness that is comfortable for you. As a rule of thumb leave enough space that you can slide two fingers comfortably between the limb and the bonds. Basic bow knots (the same as tying shoelaces) will be fine, they are easy to release and you are just experimenting at the moment.

Safe Words & Safe Signs

As you progress through your kinky journey, and gain an understanding of yourself and your partner, you may both decide that you do not need a safe word. However, at this stage the use of a safe word and a safe sign (if gagged) can be incredibly useful, as it will allow you both to get into character knowing that you can stop the activity at any time by using the safe word & sign. You can pick any word and signal that you like, the most universal safe words are red and amber, amber means that things are getting a little intense and gives the dominant the opportunity to back up a little, whereas red means stop immediately. Safe Signals can be two fingers outstretched and the dominant must remember to regularly check the hands for this signal if your partner is gagged and wrists are tied.

Dominating the Submissive &Submitting to the Dominant

STEP 1

You should both start by setting out a plan of the direction you both want to take the scene in, and it can go in many different directions. Are you planning on teasing your partner, making them beg for you and deny them what they are begging for? Maybe you both intend to have sex with one of you restrained to the bed? Maybe run through one of the Kamorii Sex Position Series or Kama Sutra Series whilst your partner is blindfolded and tied at the wrists.

Possibly think about whether you want to take advantage of your “helpless” Submissive with a bit of hair pulling, gentle throat holding and/or soft face slapping brought into the mix. Ensure that they have consented to these acts beforehand.

Whatever you decide, make some time for it and put in a little extra effort with the outfit that you choose, create a mood with low lighting or candles and enjoy the experience. Remember the purpose of the scenario is to explore your dominance and/or submission. Do not get too hung up on the bondage aspect, it is there only as a prop to heighten your dominance and submission. Much of the enjoyment from kink is in the mind, so really try to let yourself get into character and encourage your partner to come with you.

STEP 1

You should both start by setting out a plan of the direction you both want to take the scene in, and it can go in many different directions. Are you planning on teasing your partner, making them beg for you and deny them what they are begging for? Maybe you both intend to have sex with one of you restrained to the bed? Maybe run through one of the Kamorii Sex Position Series or Kama Sutra Series whilst your partner is blindfolded and tied at the wrists.

Possibly think about whether you want to take advantage of your “helpless” Submissive with a bit of hair pulling, gentle throat holding and/or soft face slapping brought into the mix. Ensure that they have consented to these acts beforehand.

Whatever you decide, make some time for it and put in a little extra effort with the outfit that you choose, create a mood with low lighting or candles and enjoy the experience. Remember the purpose of the scenario is to explore your dominance and/or submission. Do not get too hung up on the bondage aspect, it is there only as a prop to heighten your dominance and submission. Much of the enjoyment from kink is in the mind, so really try to let yourself get into character and encourage your partner to come with you.

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