Lubrication

It is very important to use lubricant when using your hands and fingers on the clitoral area. This will reduce friction and discomfort. Ensure that you apply plenty of lubricant before and during your clitoris play.

The lubricant will feel amazing for you both and will allow you to move around more smoothly.

Indirect Stimulation

Most women prefer indirect stimulation when it comes to manual clitoris play. This is due to the high sensitivity of the clitoral head, which causes direct stimulation to, at times, be uncomfortable. Indirect stimulation involves using a barrier between your hands/fingers and the clitoral head.

This can be achieved in various ways.

1) Through clothing using the fabric as a barrier.

2) Rubbing and pressing the vaginal lips against the clitoral area, or pinching the clitoris between the vaginal lips. The labia make the perfect barrier between your hand/fingers and her clitoris, the fleshy tissue pressing against it feels wonderful.

3) Massaging the clitoral hood

4) “Barely there” touching of the clitoral head

These barrier techniques allow you to carry out repetitive movements in order to bring her to orgasm. Repetitive movements are essential to achieving clitoral orgasm, particularly when she is close to orgasm.

Note: It is very important to ask your woman what she likes; she may actually enjoy occasional direct manual stimulation of the clitoral head.

Warm-Up

For each manual technique set out below, try delivering some gentle introductory touches to the particular area; in order to warm her up to the full stimulation.

Repetition & Consistency

It is important to do repetitive and consistent manual movements when you notice she is approaching orgasm. You might want to agree an “orgasm signal” so that she can alert you when you need to start being consistent. At first, you can of course do a variety of techniques and movements to build arousal. In fact, most women prefer variety during the arousal phase.

Experimentation

Try out the various techniques set out below, as some will be more successful than others in bringing her to orgasm. Ask your partner which ones she enjoys the most and the ones that triggered orgasmic sensations. You should work together to master the best techniques for her. You will then know which methods please her the most; which is priceless knowledge when it comes to sex.

Pressure Considerations

Try slowly increasing the pressure you apply whilst doing a particular technique, in order to gently build up her arousal. Keep in mind whilst delivering manual stimulation that, even if using barrier techniques, you must avoid applying too much pressure as this may cause her discomfort. Your hand and finger pressure must be varied according to your chosen barrier technique.