The Queen of Orgasms
What is a vaginal orgasm?
Vaginal orgasms are quite simply the most extraordinary aspect of female sexual pleasure a woman can experience.
These marvellous orgasms erupt courtesy of the mind, clitoral organ and the vagina (G Spot). This mixture of sources has led to this orgasm also becoming known as a Blended Orgasm. The vaginal orgasm’s contractions are unbelievably powerful and the sensations start low within the vagina and expand throughout the whole body. This differentiates them from solo clitoral orgasms, whose sensations are often confined to the genital area. Vaginal orgasms take a woman’s mind to a place of beauty and extreme pleasure.
This amazing orgasm lasts much longer than other orgasms and the external signs are much more noticeable. It is worth noting that the clitoral area is heavily involved in delivering a vaginal orgasm. The clitoral organ is much larger than it appears on the outside and extends above and below the clitoris. During deep arousal, this organ’s erectile tissue hardens much like the penile erectile tissue. This hardening increases the sensitivity of the whole genital area; providing a ripe environment for a vaginal orgasm.
Similar to the solo G Spot orgasm, vaginal orgasms take a great amount of time and effort to achieve. Whilst a clitoral orgasm can erupt in seconds; a vaginal orgasm requires patience and time to build. The right environment and mental state must exist for it to surface, and certain stimulations (bespoke to the woman) must happen to trigger the orgasm.
What is a vaginal orgasm?
Vaginal orgasms are quite simply the most extraordinary aspect of female sexual pleasure a woman can experience.
These marvellous orgasms erupt courtesy of the mind, clitoral organ and the vagina (G Spot). This mixture of sources has led to this orgasm also becoming known as a Blended Orgasm. The vaginal orgasm’s contractions are unbelievably powerful and the sensations start low within the vagina and expand throughout the whole body. This differentiates them from solo clitoral orgasms, whose sensations are often confined to the genital area. Vaginal orgasms take the woman’s mind to a place of beauty and extreme pleasure.
This amazing orgasm lasts much longer than other orgasms and the external signs are much more noticeable. It is worth noting that the clitoral area is heavily involved in delivering a vaginal orgasm. The clitoral organ is much larger than it appears on the outside and extends above and below the clitoris. During deep arousal, this organ’s erectile tissue hardens much like the penile erectile tissue. This hardening increases the sensitivity of the whole genital area; providing a ripe environment for a vaginal orgasm.
Similar to the solo G Spot orgasm, vaginal orgasms take a great amount of time and effort to achieve. Whilst a clitoral orgasm can erupt in seconds; a vaginal orgasm requires patience and time to build. The right environment and mental state must exist for it to surface, and certain stimulations (bespoke to the woman) must happen to trigger the orgasm.
Recognising (or not recognising) a vaginal orgasm
It can be rather difficult to know whether a woman has had a vaginal orgasm. The only real way to know is through open and candid conversations about sex with your partner. Women derive pleasure from sex in many different ways and respond “orgasmically” to a variety of stimulations. Clitoral orgasms are fairly common and are very powerful; meaning their outward signs can be mistaken for a vaginal orgasm.
In addition, there are no resources where we can actually witness a vaginal orgasm happening; your bed (or wherever you are having sex) is the most likely place. A few films have tried to simulate the vaginal orgasm in sex scenes; but these just go to show how easy they are to visually and aurally “act” and fake.
It is also likely that in 99.9% of porn video material involving a woman; the women never experience a vaginal orgasm. This is most likely due to the fact that a film set, time constraints and having paid sex with a stranger are not the best circumstances in which to have one for most women. Female porn actors may also reserve their vaginal orgasms for their real life partners, as they are a particularly intimate experience.
Please note that physiologically, vaginal orgasms are very difficult to fake due to their automatic nature. The whole concept of vaginal orgasms is about losing control. A woman cannot physiologically control her body to replicate a vaginal orgasm.
Do not be alarmed by this or start thinking too much about past experiences i.e. did she or didn’t she have a vaginal orgasm. There is so much unnecessary mystery and doubt about this orgasm. Worrying about it will not help matters. This guide is here to help you on the path to vaginal orgasms. There are no guaranteed methods, as women vary widely, but it is worth trying the various routes to achieve one.
It is important to know and remember that although a vaginal orgasm is a “nice to have”, it is certainly not a necessity for a woman to really enjoy sex.
Before you begin your vagina orgasm journey, it helps to know the basic external signs of arousal and vaginal orgasm. Look out for the following signs whilst practising:
Recognising (or not recognising) a vaginal orgasm
It can be rather difficult to know whether a woman has had a vaginal orgasm. The only real way to know is through open and candid conversations about sex with your partner. Women derive pleasure from sex in many different ways and respond “orgasmically” to a variety of stimulations. Clitoral orgasms are fairly common and are very powerful; meaning their outward signs can be mistaken for a vaginal orgasm.
In addition, there are no resources where we can actually witness a vaginal orgasm happening; your bed (or wherever you are having sex) is the most likely place. A few films have tried to simulate the vaginal orgasm in sex scenes; but these just go to show how easy they are to visually and aurally “act” and fake.
It is also likely that in 99.9% of porn video material involving a woman; the women never experience a vaginal orgasm. This is most likely due to the fact that a film set, time constraints and having paid sex with a stranger are not the best circumstances in which to have one for most women. Female porn actors may also reserve their vaginal orgasms for their real life partners, as they are a particularly intimate experience.
Please note that physiologically, vaginal orgasms are very difficult to fake due to their automatic nature. The whole concept of vaginal orgasms is about losing control. A woman cannot physiologically control her body to replicate a vaginal orgasm.
Do not be alarmed by this or start thinking too much about past experiences i.e. did she or didn’t she have a vaginal orgasm. There is so much unnecessary mystery and doubt about this orgasm. Worrying about it will not help matters. This guide is here to help you on the path to vaginal orgasms. There are no guaranteed methods, as women vary widely, but it is worth trying the various routes to achieve one.
It is important to know and remember that although a vaginal orgasm is a “nice to have”, it is certainly not a necessity for a woman to really enjoy sex.
Before you begin your vagina orgasm journey, it helps to know the basic external signs of arousal and vaginal orgasm. Look out for the following signs whilst practising:
External signs of Arousal
Key physiological signs of Arousal
- Quickening heartbeat
- Shallow breathing
- Vaginal wetness
- Vagina lengthens and widens internally
- Areolae enlarge and nipples become erect
External signs of Arousal
Key physiological signs of Arousal
Quickening heartbeat
Shallow breathing
Vaginal wetness
Vagina lengthens and widens internally
Areolae enlarge and nipples become erect
External signs of Vaginal Orgasm
Key physiological signs of Vaginal Orgasm
- Genital contractions causing waves throughout the body; the number of contractions varies from orgasm to orgasm
- Increased redness and heat to the face and body
- Bodily contractions as the orgasm surges beyond the genitals
- Increased vaginal secretions
- Facial expressions which show extreme pleasure and release
- A general strengthening of the whole body in response to the waves of orgasm
External signs of Vaginal Orgasm
Key physiological signs of vaginal orgasm
Genital contractions causing waves throughout the body; the number of contractions varies from orgasm to orgasm
Increased redness and heat to the face and body
Bodily contractions as the orgasm surges beyond the genitals
Increased vaginal secretions
Facial expressions which show extreme pleasure and release
A general strengthening of the whole body in response to the waves of orgasm
Get talking
If you have not already done so, try and discuss vaginal orgasms with your partner.
It is best not to assume that you know exactly how to give her one or that she has them regularly. If she has had one, she will most likely know what things have previously happened that contributed to her to having this wonderful experience. These are details that would be useful for you to know and will help you both achieve vaginal orgasms more regularly.
It can of course be a tricky subject to raise, so ask her about it in a casual way. Just try and get her to discuss them by opening a general conversation about orgasms. Perhaps start by discussing your own orgasms first.
There is a chance that she has never experienced one and would like to, but never felt she could raise it with you. She may have experienced a few in her lifetime and would like to have them more often. Do not be alarmed if she admits that she has never had one or does not have them often; this simply sets up the fun challenge to experiment with different techniques.
Note: It is important that you do not set out on a serious journey to make her have a vaginal orgasm. This would actually work to prevent it from happening. Keep things light, experimental and fun.
Get talking
If you have not already done so, try and discuss vaginal orgasms with your partner.
It is best not to assume that you know exactly how to give her one or that she has them regularly. If she has had one, she will most likely know what things have previously happened that contributed to her to having this wonderful experience. These are details that would be useful for you to know and will help you both achieve vaginal orgasms more regularly.
It can of course be a tricky subject to raise, so ask her about it in a casual way. Just try and get her to discuss them by opening a general conversation about orgasms. Perhaps start by discussing your own orgasms first.
There is a chance that she has never experienced one and would like to, but never felt she could raise it with you. She may have experienced a few in her lifetime and would like to have them more often. Do not be alarmed if she admits that she has never had one or does not have them often; this simply sets up the fun challenge to experiment with different techniques.
Note: It is important that you do not set out on a serious journey to make her have a vaginal orgasm. This would actually work to prevent it from happening. Keep things light, experimental and fun.
Key Components of a Vaginal Orgasm
The Mind
The Mind is the most important aspect of a vaginal orgasm. If you can assist her to mentally get into the “zone” for orgasm, then it follows that she is more likely to have one.
In order to understand how to do this, it can help for you to think about what is required for you to get turned on. If you then think in more detail about what you need to see, feel and experience to get sexually excited; then you can get some ideas about what you can do for her.
The Clitoral Area
Clitoral stimulation is a fundamental component of a vaginal orgasm and creates the spark to ignite it. It is made up of erectile tissue and is filled with thousands of tightly packed nerve endings.
It is the sheer orgasmic power of the clitoris that physiologically sets the scene for vaginal orgasm. When combined with penetration, the body erupts and contractions travel beyond the clitoral area and trigger the vagina.
The Vagina
Physiologically, the vagina has very few nerve endings and most of these are located in the lower third section of the vaginal canal. However, the most important aspect for vaginal orgasm is the mind’s response to being penetrated. There is something very special about the act of penetration on a psychological level and it is this “mindset” that can trigger a vaginal orgasm. The act of a woman taking her man’s penis inside her is extremely erotic and arousing for many women.
Combine this “mindset” with clitoral and G Spot stimulation and orgasmic waves can overwhelm the body and mind; this is when the vaginal orgasm takes hold.
The Mind
The Mind is the most important aspect of a vaginal orgasm. If you can assist her to mentally get into the “zone” for orgasm, then it follows that she is more likely to have one.
In order to understand how to do this, it can help for you to think about what is required for you to get turned on. If you then think in more detail about what you need to see, feel and experience to get sexually excited; then you can get some ideas about what you can do for her.
The Clitoral Area
Clitoral stimulation is a fundamental component of a vaginal orgasm and creates the spark to ignite it. It is made up of erectile tissue and is filled with thousands of tightly packed nerve endings.
It is the sheer orgasmic power of the clitoris that physiologically sets the scene for vaginal orgasm. When combined with penetration, the body erupts and contractions travel beyond the clitoral area and trigger the vagina.
The Vagina
Physiologically, the vagina has very few nerve endings and most of these are located in the lower third section of the vaginal canal. However, the most important aspect for vaginal orgasm is the mind’s response to being penetrated. There is something very special about the act of penetration on a psychological level and it is this “mindset” that can trigger a vaginal orgasm. The act of a woman taking her man’s penis inside her is extremely erotic and arousing for many women.
Combine this “mindset” with clitoral and G Spot stimulation and orgasmic waves can overwhelm the body and mind; this is when the vaginal orgasm takes hold.
Working the Mind
The mindset required for an orgasm will vary from woman to woman and you should take the time to learn what turns her on. Our Tantric Sex section has various exercises which you can work through with your partner, in order to learn more about what your woman likes.
These are some common feelings women experience when they are ripe for vaginal orgasm:
1) Feeling relaxed and safe to “let go”
2) Feeling sexy and desired
3) Feeling passion and lust
The good news is that you have plenty of power over how she feels when she is with you and especially when she is about to have sex with you.
You have many options at your fingertips to get her in the right mindset. Here are some ideas:
1) Play her favourite tunes and sing/dance/move with her. If she drinks alcohol, grab her favourite tipple. Dancing and music are great for getting in a fun relaxed mood. Rule 101 for vaginal orgasms.
2) Behave in a confident manner with her (even if you do not feel it) and dish out those sexy compliments. Get set in YOUR mind how sexy and hot she is and this will show in your eyes and behaviour. Let your desire for her take over you. Lustful eyes and confident behaviour are a great turn on.
3) Work hard on your kissing skills and match her mouth movements. Aim for a mix of quick kisses and some deep sexy long French kisses. Melt that French kissing into her and her juices will start flowing. You can deliver these whilst dancing or playing around.
4) Be careful to keep the fun aspect going, do not start getting a serious “I must give her an orgasm” head on. Keep the kissing passionate, sexy and fun.
5) Make her laugh and be playful; this will help relax her and get her in a good mood.
Working the Mind
The mindset required for an orgasm will vary from woman to woman and you should take the time to learn what turns her on. Our Tantric Sex section has various exercises which you can work through with your partner, in order to learn more about what your woman likes.
These are some common feelings women experience when they are ripe for vaginal orgasm:
1) Feeling relaxed and safe to “let go”
2) Feeling sexy and desired
3) Feeling passion and lust
The good news is that you have plenty of power over how she feels when she is with you and especially when she is about to have sex with you.
You have many options at your fingertips to get her in the right mindset. Here are some ideas:
1) Play her favourite tunes and sing/dance/move with her. If she drinks alcohol, grab her favourite tipple. Dancing and music are great for getting in a fun relaxed mood. Rule 101 for vaginal orgasms.
2) Behave in a confident manner with her (even if you do not feel it) and dish out those sexy compliments. Get set in YOUR mind how sexy and hot she is and this will show in your eyes and behaviour. Let your desire for her take over you. Lustful eyes and confident behaviour are a great turn on.
3) Work hard on your kissing skills and match her mouth movements. Aim for a mix of quick kisses and some deep sexy long French kisses. Melt that French kissing into her and her juices will start flowing. You can deliver these whilst dancing or playing around.
4) Be careful to keep the fun aspect going, do not start getting a serious “I must give her an orgasm” head on. Keep the kissing passionate, sexy and fun.
5) Make her laugh and be playful; this will help relax her and get her in a good mood.
How to give her a Vaginal Orgasm
Simultaneousclitoral & vaginalstimulation
Some women achieve vaginal orgasm through combined clitoral stimulation and vaginal penetration. Clitoral stimulation works to lubricate and “open up” the vagina. Many women also feel an intense desire for penetration during clitoral stimulation.
There are many methods of providing simultaneous clitoral stimulation and penetration. Here are a few:
1) Coital Alignment Technique
This position allows your pubic bone to stimulate the clitoris whilst you penetrate her. Use your pubic bone and pubic hair to rub against the clitoris and maintain a good rhythm. The key here is consistent movements over a long period of time.
2) Oral stimulation and vibrator penetration
This technique permits intense oral stimulation of the clitoral area; which is more effective than most other types of clitoral stimulation. Use plenty of lubricant on the vibrator and carry out regular pumps in and out of the vagina.
3) Penis penetration and manual stimulation of the clitoris
This technique permits you to do any penetrative position where you have manual access to the clitoris. This allows you to get very creative. Try using a well lubed vibrator to stimulate the clitoral area.
Check out our Manual Clitoral Orgasm Guide (available with Membership) for tips on manual techniques.
4) Penis penetration and a Clitoris / G Spot Vibrator
This technique requires you to own or buy a special type of vibrator which can be used in conjunction with penis penetration. We-Vibe® and Lelo® both manufacture high end products of this type. These amazing gadgets permit hands free stimulation of the clitoris so that you can focus on your rhythm. You will also be able to enjoy the vibrations against your penis. Lubricate the whole device before insertion. These are also safe to use with condoms; providing you use a water based lubricant.
Whichever technique you choose, keep monitoring her arousal levels and whether she is showing signs of vaginal orgasm (see above). If it is happening, continue doing exactly what you are doing. If it is not happening after 15 – 20 minutes, switch to another method.
Simultaneousclitoral & vaginalstimulation
Some women achieve vaginal orgasm through combined clitoral stimulation and vaginal penetration. Clitoral stimulation works to lubricate and “open up” the vagina. Many women also feel an intense desire for penetration during clitoral stimulation.
There are many methods of providing simultaneous clitoral stimulation and penetration. Here are a few:
1) Coital Alignment Technique
This position allows your pubic bone to stimulate the clitoris whilst you penetrate her. Use your pubic bone and pubic hair to rub against the clitoris and maintain a good rhythm. The key here is consistent movements over a long period of time.
2) Oral stimulation and vibrator penetration
This technique permits intense oral stimulation of the clitoral area; which is more effective than most other types of clitoral stimulation. Use plenty of lubricant on the vibrator and carry out regular pumps in and out of the vagina.
3) Penis penetration and manual stimulation of the clitoris
This technique permits you to do any penetrative position where you have manual access to the clitoris. This allows you to get very creative. Try using a well lubed vibrator to stimulate the clitoral area.
Check out our Manual Clitoral Orgasm Guide (available with Membership)for tips on manual techniques.
4) Penis penetration and a Clitoris / G Spot Vibrator
This technique requires you to own or buy a special type of vibrator which can be used in conjunction with penis penetration. We-Vibe® and Lelo® both manufacture high end products of this type. These amazing gadgets permit hands free stimulation of the clitoris so that you can focus on your rhythm. You will also be able to enjoy the vibrations against your penis. Lubricate the whole device before insertion. These are also safe to use with condoms; providing you use a water based lubricant.
Whichever technique you choose, keep monitoring her arousal levels and whether she is showing signs of vaginal orgasm (see above). If it is happening, continue doing exactly what you are doing. If it is not happening after 15 – 20 minutes, switch to another method.
Clitoral Orgasm Recovery Vaginal Orgasm
You can try giving her a full clitoral orgasm to raise her arousal levels and get her in “orgasm mode”. Following orgasm, give her some time for recover. Some women actually need a period of recovery after any kind of orgasm; but following recovery she will be extra primed for a vaginal orgasm. See our About Clitoral Orgasms Guide (available with Membership) for clitoral orgasm techniques.
During the recovery phase you can keep her stimulated in other milder ways e.g. breast play, kissing, masturbating in front of her etc. Just try and avoid her genitals during the recovery phase.
Following recovery, choose your favourite position and deliver it in a consistent manner. Check her arousal levels and whether she is showing signs of vaginal orgasm. If it is happening, continue doing exactly what you are doing. If it is not happening, change things up and try simultaneous clitoral stimulation and vaginal penetration.
Clitoral Orgasm Recovery Vaginal Orgasm
You can try giving her a full clitoral orgasm to raise her arousal levels and get her in “orgasm mode”. Following orgasm, give her some time for recover. Some women actually need a period of recovery after any kind of orgasm; but following recovery she will be extra primed for a vaginal orgasm. See our About Clitoral Orgasms Guide (available with Membership) for clitoral orgasm techniques.
During the recovery phase you can keep her stimulated in other milder ways e.g. breast play, kissing, masturbating in front of her etc. Just try and avoid her genitals during the recovery phase.
Following recovery, choose your favourite position and deliver it in a consistent manner. Check her arousal levels and whether she is showing signs of vaginal orgasm. If it is happening, continue doing exactly what you are doing. If it is not happening, change things up and try simultaneous clitoral stimulation and vaginal penetration.
SurpriseVaginalOrgasm
Many women get aroused very quickly when vaginal penetration is unexpectedly delivered. The surprise aspect of this can be enough to bring about orgasm. The surprise act must be one that stimulates both the clitoris and vagina e.g. Coital Alignment Technique.
Let’s say you are chilling watching a film or busy clearing up after dinner. You then suddenly take her to the floor, remove her underwear and penetrate her whilst massaging her clitoris with your pubic bone. This unexpected penetration and stimulation may work to bring about a great vaginal orgasm.
Ensure that you have consent to have sex and that this is clear before any surprise sex.
SurpriseVaginalOrgasm
Many women get aroused very quickly when vaginal penetration is unexpectedly delivered. The surprise aspect of this can be enough to bring about orgasm. The surprise act must be one that stimulates both the clitoris and vagina e.g. Coital Alignment Technique.
Let’s say you are chilling watching a film or busy clearing up after dinner. You then suddenly take her to the floor, remove her underwear and penetrate her whilst massaging her clitoris with your pubic bone. This unexpected penetration and stimulation may work to bring about a great vaginal orgasm.
Ensure that you have consent to have sex and that this is clear before any surprise sex.
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